We have no control over being born as a male. But becoming a man is a choice. It always has been so. It’s a process that doesn’t occur overnight. We don’t wake up one morning as a young teenage boy and enter into manhood with a flip switch on the bed.
In the journey on finding the truth of becoming man. I think “manliness” has shifted significantly over those years.
Some of nowadays boys refered that manliness achieved through start a fight, hooking up, sleeping with women, graduating high school, getting a job, drinking beer, killing animals, punching a cow, kicking babies, beating hippies, chugging hot sauce, getting tucker max drunk, chew tobacco, or wrestle an alligator or maybe get million follower and likes. Pop culture is worst about how to define manliness like career, money, car, house, girlfriend, wife, education or any screw thing that people need to validate. I confess that I reject those fucking ideas.
Manliness is all about having big muscles and beards and being ‘macho’. How about James Bond, The Rock, Tony Stark, Justin Biebier? A meaning we can all measures ourselves by description pulled from the chronicles of decades of Hollywood parody.
Sadly, society has lost what a real man should look like for a variety of reasons. Ignore magazine articles describing what it takes to be a man. This may sound like the future of us is awfully doomy and gloomy. Should I tear down the very civilization and built up in order to start over again and get back to a time when men truly were men?
What about character, values, morals and responsibility? Is these a pastime of manliness? Were they ever a part of it? What is manliness? Pull up a chair and let’s get to it.
Manliness is not something that we achieve, but something we choose to pursue. And that pursuit starts with assuming responsibility.
“Manliness must be planted in a firm foundation of virtue.”
– Brett McKay
Being a man means living the “higher” moral virtues – having a virtuous character. Goodness involves seeking Beauty, Truth, Wisdom, Strength, Courage, Mastery, Honor, Justice, Loyalty, Industry, Resiliency, Resolution, Responsibility, Self-Reliance, Integrity, Sacrifice, Confidence, Resourcefulness, and Mental Fortitude to be ready for whatever comes. (Credit – Art of Manliness)
These virtues are manliness. And they can be striven for by any man, in any situation. It is about utilizing all of one’s human potential, achieving truly flourishing life (ancient greek call it – eudaimonia). It can be described as man’s purpose was to take actions guided by rational thought that would lead to excellence in every aspect of his life.
Being good at being a man means being able to perform the male role competently – to be a proficient protector, procreator, and provider, to be willing to take public risks, face danger, work hard, take action, compete fiercely, seek strength, and solve problems. (We’ll talk about it later)
But before we discuss about the other important core : Manliness can be first summed up with single word: responsibility.
Being a man means taking responsibility; responsibility for your life, your actions, your character, your attitude. Responsible for the company you keep, responsibility for the business you do, responsibility for the relationships you pursue, responsibility for the places you work.
Without duty, there is no point in pursuing what it means to be a man. If you’re not willing to take on the responsibility of being a man, then just move back and sit on the couch all day, go adventure on your instagram feeds, masturbates while watching porn.
Manliness doesn’t happen overnight or years. Anyone can be 40th and they look old outside but a boys inside. Age doesnt matter here. It is not about making yourself into a better man is more than just improving the physical details, build muscle and seduce as much as women in life. Manliness is about cultivating core. Manliness meant being the best man you can be.
Find what you’re passionate about, and run after it.
Find who you want to become, and chase it.
Find out where in your character you’re deficient, and work on it.
Find your true self and take responsibility about your own life.
The greatest thing a man can possibly do in this world is to make the most possible out of the stuff that has been given him. It is now a question of what someone else can do or become which every youth should ask himself, but what can I do? How can I develop myself into the grandest possible manhood?
– Orison Sweet Marden