There is much discussion these days about manhood and the future of men. Some people say that talking about what it means to be a man is meaningless, because the whole idea of manhood is totally relative and absurd.
Manhood itself, It’s different in every culture and has changed throughout time. Probably, it is true whereas the ideals of manhood have indeed varied over the centuries and around the world. But it will be false assumption if these ideals have not shared some unvarying commonalities belief in a code of “true manliness” which is nearly universal.
In this blog, I’d like to start with the concern for being manly. I know that we don’t really need all 21st century men to be good at being men in our current safe and luxurious environment.
Why bother guiding life by an idea of manhood that was formed in another time and is no longer suited for our modern, plush, techno-industrial world?
For me, living the code of manhood will enormously benefit to our life as a whole. It will lead to best of us, arrange friendships with other great men, attractive to women and lastly conquer our mind and our life.
What happen nowdays that some men squander it on a mediocre life of consumer lifestyle, faint, pansy, sissy, effeminacy, powerless, hatred, victim of porn, video games, and dronish.
The problem of modern manhood is that men are forced to compete for status in a group that’s exponentially large. Instead of trying to be the best of himself or community of relatively homogenous and equal men, modern men are competing for “fake” status against thousands and sometimes millions of anonymous men from various backgrounds and classes through their social media, not on their real social life.
Many young men today compete for status against millions. Moreover, thanks to internet, it’s not enough to keep up with the people around, but also have to keep up with the Rich Kids of Instagram or some bro dude who has rich from their father that allows him to be “location independent” and travel the world. When that’s what an average man is comparing himself to, constant status defeat is inevitable.
That’s exactly what’s happening to more and more men in our modern world and that why many on men’s today in degradation. Many of us throw ourselves into only seeking virtue without respect. They strive to be a real man, but not good men. That modernity’s expansive social structures set men up for continuous and crushing “status defeat” and seeking approval to become an awesome “douchebag”.
It’s the type of safe, bland, denial, unguided man without life purpose and do-nothing masculinity that leads nowhere. They’re not part of the solution, but part of the problem.
There is no real angst here. There is no real bitterness here. There is no real suffering, no real anguish, no real pain, no real conflict, no real controversy. We men need these things. We crave them. We need struggle, combat, stress, anxiety, and take them off into victory. These things define us. They create us, and make us who we are.
There is one rule, above all others, for being a man. Whatever comes, face it on your feet – Robert Jordan
All that happen to man nowadays, It’s helped me think through the meaning of manhood on a new level, and I’m very excited about using it as bait for a number of posts now and in the future.
In the next series of the blog, I plan to write and review about manliness as being a man who lives a life of excellence and virtue while will lay out my point of view about the roadmap for how to live as a man in the 21st century.
We are a man. This is what we were made to do. Embrace it.
– Stay Manly.